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“Love is the thing that enables a woman to sing while she mops up the floor after her husband has walked across it in his barn boots.”
–Hoosier Farmer

OR

“Love is the thing that enables a man to remove his barn boots before he walks all over the kitchen floor.”
Maricar Macalincag

 

Something to make you think. ;-)

Should You Be Your Husband’s Highest Priority?

At first the obvious answer seems to be YES. As wives, we should be the most important person in our husband’s lives. And they in ours. This means we get to be at the top of the list. Right? Not exactly.

Husband & Wife Walk

As Christians, we are called to something more as our primary concern. Or should I say Someone more?

Our God.
The Creator of the Universe.
The Alpha and Omega.
The all-knowing, all-powerful Lord of Life.
This Savior Who is far above our comprehension.

“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.”
–Matthew 22.37b

In fact, the King of Kings and Lord of Lords shouldn’t just be at the top of our priority list. He should be our priority list.

I like what Ashley Pichea said in her ebook 31 Days To Build A Better Spouse:

“When [your husband] has God at the center of his life, the other pieces of his life will fall into place in a natural and God-designed way.”

This is so true.
(And the same goes for us!)

I think we often stress over making sure our priorities are correct, when all we really need to do is simply focus on Jesus and allow the rest fall into place as we follow His leading.

This isn’t to say that making a list of priorities is never necessary. It can be quite handy when it comes to time management and planning. My point is that the condition of our heart and mindset should be focused on Christ and walking in obedience to Him as a response of love.

After this revelation, I am determined to set aside my selfish desires to be my husband’s highest priority. My prayer is that God will be my husband’s first concern and that everything else will fall into place as the Lord leads.

 


This post is linked to Teach Me Tuesday, Encourage One Another, Living Well Wednesday, Pour Your Heart Out, Wifey Wednesday, Women In The Word Wednesday, Thought Provoking Thursday, Finer Things Friday, and the 3in30 Challenge.

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25 Things I Love About My Husband


I wrote this list for Matt’s 25th Birthday last Fall.  Just a few thing that I love about Mi Amor

  1. His smile
  2. His silly sense of humor
  3. His intense, blue eyes
  4. His love for God
  5. His compassion for others
  6. He’s not too “manly” to show his emotions
  7. He strives for integrity in his job, even though he doesn’t like it
  8. He does the dishes most nights
  9. He knows what to say to make me smile most of the time
  10. He cuddles me when I’m cold, even if he’s really hot
  11. His “working man” hands
  12. He gets me take-out Chinese when I crave it at 9pm
  13. He’s excited about being a daddy
  14. He’s going to be an amazing dad
  15. He takes care of me to the point of exhaustion sometimes
  16. He’s a talker
  17. He has a story for everything and they are usually funny
  18. He is my best friend
  19. We’ve known each other over 14 years
  20. He’s willing to try new things
  21. His pet names for me
  22. He is not a selfish person
  23. His hugs
  24. His kisses
  25. The way he says, “I love you” or “Te quiero”

Sheet Music: A Book Review

Several months ago, I read Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage by Dr. Kevin Leman.   A friend suggested it when Matt and I were engaged, and I finally got around to reading it.  I debated whether or not to even to a review it, due to the subject.  I try to keep my blog “G-rated” or at least “PG-rated”, but I feel that it’s a subject that often is brushed under the rug in the Christian culture.  If you are offended by this post, I apologize.  I will not be offended if you choose to not read it due to the subject matter.

For those that are interested, here it goes…

Leman certainly does not hold anything back when approaching the subject of sex, yet he is respectful and comes at it from a very Biblical view point.  I really appreciated this.  Most of my recently married friends and I agree that most Christian couples are not prepared for the physical aspect of a marriage or realize the impact it has on marriage as a whole.  Thankfully, Matt and I received some counseling on the subject and were given a book to read.  Some of our friends, unfortunately, were left with the “You’ll figure it out” speech.

Note for engaged couples: If you are given a book, read the parts suggested before the wedding night!

The author’s main message is that sex is more than just the physical aspect of marriage.  It is your entire love life, which includes your attitude, words, actions, etc.  I thought this was an important issue to cover and learned a few things from it.  There are chapters “For Men Only” and “For Women Only” that are quite helpful in seeing where the other person is coming from and what they need.  (It’s suggested that you read both chapters together to begin open conversations on the subject).  The book covers a variety of subjects, including the physiology of the act, how your past effects your marriage, how to get past inhibitions, what is and isn’t allowed according to Scripture (and what isn’t mentioned), and FAQs.

I felt that Leman was fairly balanced in his approach.  He was not overly liberal, but does believe in the freedom of expression, if you will, of couples within the bond of marriage and that expression must not go against Scripture.  There were only a few controversial subjects on which I didn’t completely agree with him.  I understood his point, but don’t know that I would agree.  I will let you decide for yourself…

All in all, I found this to be a very eye-opening book.  As a Christian woman, I was innocent of some things before marriage that are now quite helpful to know as a married woman.  This book was informative and helpful in several aspects of marriage.  I would definitely suggest it to engaged couples and/or newlyweds and believe that even those who have been married for a long time could learn a few things from it.

 

*Also, The Act of Marriage by Tim & Beverly LaHaye is a practical, more conservative approach to the subject.  It was given to us by our pastor and was quite helpful at the beginning of our marriage.


Marriage Takes Three

I once thought marriage took
Just two to make a go
But now I am convinced
It takes the Lord also.

And not one marriage fails
Where Christ is asked to enter
As lovers come together
With Jesus at the center.

But marriage seldom thrives
And homes are incomplete
‘Til He is welcomed there
To help avert defeat.

In homes where God is first
It’s obvious to see
Those unions really work,
For marriage still takes three.

{ Perry Tanksley }

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