Before becoming a parent, it is easy to make judgments on parenting styles and decisions. One can be quick to make statements such as, “Oh, I would never (insert action here)!”
Then we become parents and everything changes.
When I was pregnant with my daughter, my husband and I had a few “rules” that we ended up breaking. The needs of our baby were more important than our pre-conceived ideas of parenting.
Before we became parents, we said we would never co-sleep.
There were several reason we had made this decision. There were risks involved. It could be dangerous. It would put stress on our marriage. We wouldn’t get any sleep. All legitimate fears and concerns.
However, after several months of getting up every 2-3 hours, every night, I was getting exhausted. By the time I fell asleep, it was time to get up again. I was getting resentful.
Then our daughter got sick and would not sleep unless she was held. We caved due to exhaustion and pity.
And we finally got some sleep.
I found that I enjoyed co-sleeping quite a bit. I wasn’t constantly getting up to nurse and I woke up feeling more refreshed. Not to mention, I got to snuggle with my baby all night.
Eventually, we moved our daughter back to her crib. Once she became more mobile and started moving around in her sleep, it become too much of a risk for us. She now sleeps soundly in her room.
Bending the rules on co-sleeping taught me that you cannot make judgments on parenting situations before you are in them. You can attempt to predict how you will handle it, but don’t be surprised if you change your mind when you are in the midst of circumstance.
What did you say you would never do as a parent?